We haven’t had just a straight-up discussion post in awhile.
We haven’t had just a straight-up discussion post in awhile.
We have straight male players in The Gauntlet (they shall remain nameless) who have expressed discomfort playing gay male characters. Mostly, I just roll my eyes and get on with things, rather than point out that “Just because you’re playing a gay character, doesn’t mean you are gay.”
As a gay man, I should probably be offended, but I take comfort in the fact that most everyone else at the table finds their position embarrassing. The part that bothers me more is that their choice is often contra to the needs of the story being told. We recently played Fiasco, for example, and one of the relationship ties between Character X and Character Y was “a forbidden love affair” (or something like that), and up until that point, Character X and Character Y were men. Once that relationship tie got added, it suddenly became of paramount importance to change the gender of one of the characters to female, even though doing so made the story about 100 times less interesting (note: I’m sure there were ways to make the story more interesting with the character’s gender swapped, but the players in our case failed to do so).
Another thing that happens in The Gauntlet (I’m embarrassed to say) is discomfort by certain male players at having their character be the object of affection of a character played by another male player, regardless of the gender or sexual preference of the characters involved. It’s a wrinkle on the above problem, but many of the same issues are involved.
I’m curious where people stand on this. Should we always be allowed to just play the character we are more comfortable with? The specific case of feeling discomfort playing gay characters is almost the textbook definition of homophobia, but should we give people a pass in roleplaying games, since the experience is more immersive/personal?
Thoughts?