Not RPG-related, but we’re heading into a very tricky time of year for a lot of people, particularly queer people. For a lot of folks, the holidays are a really fraught and melancholy time, because while the rest of the country is traveling and making merry, they are being reminded of their outsider status among their family, or are desperately summoning the strength to deal with arguments and other bullshit. And, honestly, Trump is just going to make that worse for a lot of folks (non-queer people: that frustration you feel with your Trump-supporting family at Thanksgiving is a little taste of what a lot of queer people have had to put up with for most of their lives; welcome to the party).
Anyway, I’m posting here to let those folks know: I see you and I’m happy to chat privately over the next couple of days if you need it.
I frequently say I can’t imagine how I would maintain relationships with pro-Trump people; adding this queer dimension to it makes it seem like signing up for a tour through hell. My deepest sympathies to you all.
I frequently say I can’t imagine how I would maintain relationships with pro-Trump people; adding this queer dimension to it makes it seem like signing up for a tour through hell. My deepest sympathies to you all.
Also, if you know someone who’s not going to be with their family for Thanksgiving (especially queer people who feel ostracized by their own family), give them a seat at your table. Show them that they’re loved.
Also, if you know someone who’s not going to be with their family for Thanksgiving (especially queer people who feel ostracized by their own family), give them a seat at your table. Show them that they’re loved.
It feels like a giant leap backwards.
It feels like a giant leap backwards.
I’m new to the community and about as remote as you can get, but even I am feeling the effects of the current political climate in the states, I can only imagine what kind of baggage the holidays add to that for queer people or folks that are far from home.
Now, no one is likely to want to confide their situation with some rando, which I totally get. so I will follow James Knevitt’s example. If you want to play some RPG’s over the holiday season look me up. I’ll run a game for you or fill a seat at your table any time that I am free.
At the very least we share a hobby that brings people together and creates a social space that is inviting and accepting.
I’m new to the community and about as remote as you can get, but even I am feeling the effects of the current political climate in the states, I can only imagine what kind of baggage the holidays add to that for queer people or folks that are far from home.
Now, no one is likely to want to confide their situation with some rando, which I totally get. so I will follow James Knevitt’s example. If you want to play some RPG’s over the holiday season look me up. I’ll run a game for you or fill a seat at your table any time that I am free.
At the very least we share a hobby that brings people together and creates a social space that is inviting and accepting.
Well said Jason!
Well said Jason!
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FYI. I saw this recently.
generosity.com – Building A Foundation For Diverse Geeks and Gamers
FYI. I saw this recently.
generosity.com – Building A Foundation For Diverse Geeks and Gamers
I’m your new family now, all of you. I’m very proud of you, and want you to know that you are loved and respected.
I’m your new family now, all of you. I’m very proud of you, and want you to know that you are loved and respected.
If I was running my own Thanksgiving dinner I would certainly open it up to anyone in this community who felt shunned from their families…
I care about you all. You are all awesome.
If I was running my own Thanksgiving dinner I would certainly open it up to anyone in this community who felt shunned from their families…
I care about you all. You are all awesome.
I’m not super active here, but this means a lot. Thank you for melting my big queer heart 💜
I’m not super active here, but this means a lot. Thank you for melting my big queer heart 💜
Do y’all have the term “Orphans’ Christmas” over there? So I’m not going home for Christmas this year (in Australia Christmas is the big holiday) but I’m going to be in my new place and if there any Gauntleteers in Melbourne who want to get together, play games, cook food, and feel loved hit me up. Queer or otherwise, there’s room for you at the table.
Do y’all have the term “Orphans’ Christmas” over there? So I’m not going home for Christmas this year (in Australia Christmas is the big holiday) but I’m going to be in my new place and if there any Gauntleteers in Melbourne who want to get together, play games, cook food, and feel loved hit me up. Queer or otherwise, there’s room for you at the table.
Back in my single days I did one or two orphan Thanksgivings… So yeah, it’s a thing.
Back in my single days I did one or two orphan Thanksgivings… So yeah, it’s a thing.
yeah, most of the holidays i have been a part of for the last six years have been orphan holidays. at the housing co-op for thanksgiving i would get a turkey from my friend who raised turkey, and then make green bean casserole, and everyone who had nowhere to go for thanksgiving would all come together to hang out. usually between 12-17 of us, it was great. christmas was smaller, and once i worked on christmas just to be with my clients, and see some of em open presents. and then on the farm i would have holidays with the families that lived on site, but also with all the lovely villagers who stuck around. it was always nice.
as someone who doesn’t have much of a family, and what family i have i ain’t close to, due to a mix for my queerness and shared trauma, i tend to forge my own with new definitions of family.
yeah, most of the holidays i have been a part of for the last six years have been orphan holidays. at the housing co-op for thanksgiving i would get a turkey from my friend who raised turkey, and then make green bean casserole, and everyone who had nowhere to go for thanksgiving would all come together to hang out. usually between 12-17 of us, it was great. christmas was smaller, and once i worked on christmas just to be with my clients, and see some of em open presents. and then on the farm i would have holidays with the families that lived on site, but also with all the lovely villagers who stuck around. it was always nice.
as someone who doesn’t have much of a family, and what family i have i ain’t close to, due to a mix for my queerness and shared trauma, i tend to forge my own with new definitions of family.
Thank you for that moving post, Jason. I am not personally queer. My holidays can be contentious, though, because my family sometimes says or does things that are racially problematic. I have mentally prepared (and even role played!) how to push back if such an incident happens this Thanksgiving. At the very least, even if I can’t find the words in the moment, I will stop the conversation, tell them I don’t like what just happened and that it makes me uncomfortable. I encourage that everyone who has racial, gender, sexual orientation or other privileges will stand in solidarity with our marginalized friends and loved-ones and use our voice to let our families know that we don’t agree with prejudice & bigotry.
Thank you for that moving post, Jason. I am not personally queer. My holidays can be contentious, though, because my family sometimes says or does things that are racially problematic. I have mentally prepared (and even role played!) how to push back if such an incident happens this Thanksgiving. At the very least, even if I can’t find the words in the moment, I will stop the conversation, tell them I don’t like what just happened and that it makes me uncomfortable. I encourage that everyone who has racial, gender, sexual orientation or other privileges will stand in solidarity with our marginalized friends and loved-ones and use our voice to let our families know that we don’t agree with prejudice & bigotry.